Author: Stella Namet Abulafya
I am reading a book when its name is Disjointed. Just like the moment we are in now. The period when we remain closed in our homes with fears, anxieties and many more internal reckonings will definitely end. As our elders have told in fairy tales, no darkness lasts forever. It is filled with examples of chaotic times that have already ended in history. I would like to enter this article by asking you the question I asked myself during this closed period. What kind of a path would I like to take when I go out freely?
This is not an economic or physical question. This is a purely spiritual question. While I found myself more than grateful to what I had during this challenging period, one morning, “What about those who don't?” I jumped out of my bed like I was drowning. Here's the book I read brought me an opening at this very moment. It reduced me to a level where I could breathe and put it on my computer to share with you.
Each of us must strive to be as BODHICITTA as possible. I didn't know what it meant until I read this book. Bodhichitta means a heart dedicated to being Buddha (meaning the way of goodness). It finds meaning with the phrase "I have to overcome all my limitations and realize all my potentials to help everyone." Developing bodhichitta means opening our hearts.
I'm not the only one in this universe. Everyone else is there too. What will they be? Do I have a responsibility towards them? ” We can say, “No, who do they care about? I am not really attached to them. I can only work for myself. ” But this is far from being realistic. The great Indian master Shantideva gave the example of hand and foot. If a thorn sinks on our feet and our hand says to our feet, “You are lucky, foot! This is your problem, I'm fine here. ”That would be stupid. The hand should help the foot because they are interconnected. Likewise, we cannot work alone for ourselves because we are interconnected with everyone else.
As our corona days continued, our first collective global positive movement was our applause to thank the healthcare staff on the balconies when the evening started dark. While the balcony applause was previously linked to local problems for different protests, it will suddenly appear on the pages of history as a symbol of positive behavior that appeals to the open heart of everyone. Then the volunteer army carrying food to the elderly, who could not stay in their beautiful open-hearted homes, followed by thousands of concerts, theaters and performers online. A huge heart has opened in the universe and we are filled with love.
There is a well-known story. Have you thought of throwing the oat flakes in your mouth? She. Where did this crisp come from? Many people played a role in the cultivation of wheat; somebody gathered it, and then others took it to the mill, where it would be made into flour; some made it crispy, and then others packed it. All these people contributed to the preparation of the cereal for us. Then the crisp box was brought here by plane, ship or road. Who built these roads? Who made these planes? Where did the materials made of trucks or planes come from? What about fuel? Think of all those dinosaurs that decayed and fueled their bodies! Many people and animals played a role in the construction of a single crisp box.
How did we cook the flakes? There should be electricity in the kitchen and gas in the stove. These are due to the people working in power stations and drilling and pumping the gas. There are so many people involved in all these activities - even if a crumb is at stake! But what about everything else we eat? What about the clothes we wear? Dozens of things at home? Where did the bowl in which I put the flakes come from? There is also a box or plastic in which the flakes rest. But where did he come from? Think of all those people working in the timber industry, the paper or plastic industry, and the printing industry that makes the packaging.
It is possible for us to continue our lives every day with the contribution of hundreds of thousands of people. There is no point in working for ourselves alone, because we are interconnected with everyone else. If everybody else is in a terrible situation and we are good, it is useless. Likewise, it is the only person who survives a nuclear war and it is not useful to stand alone in the bunker with a gas mask while everyone is dead. How long can we bear this? Not so long. It cannot be said that it will be a lot of fun anyway.
Then we ask: “Can I do my best to help others? Honestly, no. It is difficult to say that I can even help myself. How can I help others? The only way to do this will be with ourselves becoming open-hearted. So as Bodhichitta. It means opening our hearts more so that we can benefit everyone, and overcoming all our limitations to help others in the best possible way.
While trying to help others, we do our best to help them. If it works, no problem. We do not celebrate ourselves and tell how compassionate and wonderful we are here and there. Even if it doesn't work, we shouldn't feel guilty. We should not punish ourselves emotionally. We have done our best and it worked if it was sensitive to this. If it's not responsive, there's nothing we can do already. Nobody is an absolute God. Especially we are not at all.
So let's say that when we can leave our homes, we take on this responsibility based on love and compassion, without taking on Godliness, but with pleasure and opening our whole heart, taking care of everyone else's happiness and striving not to make them unhappy.